How to keep calm if you’re an anxious person

“Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength- carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” ~ Corrie Ten Boom

Keep your “stress meter” under control during covid pandemic by dealing with yourself as well as other people. “I realize that something that assists with tension and misery is the point at which we figure out how to be altruistic toward others. It gets us outside of our own apprehensions.”.

The word “pandemic” strikes dread in many of us. What’s more, very much like infection, dread is its contagiousness – fast to spread through families, networks and nations. I’ve heard the proposals from wellbeing experts about appropriate hand cleanliness and social distancing to moderate the spread of the Covid, yet how might we calm the dread and uneasiness that many of us feel as the world shifts underneath our feet?

During the time of emergency previously, we regularly went to sports, theater, shows and different redirections to help us adapt and calm our minds. Presently those equivalent choices are not accessible to us. Indeed, even numerous places of worship are shut down. How at that point would we be able to keep our minds under control?

So here are few suggestions which could help you to calm your mind for all the negativity and anxiety: 1) Have normal meals and rest plan. Weariness and a terrible eating routine will contrarily influence our mind-set.

2) Indulge yourself in yoga or exercise, this will help you to channelise your energy into sometime constructive.

3) Listen to the songs you love. It will help in tuning your mood swings and anxious behavior.

4) Stay in touch with your near and dear ones, so that not only your mind feels calm talking to them but even they feel the same. More the merrier- right!

5) Stay informed but don’t binge watch news as it will effect your mindset negativity and trigger more anxious behavior.

6) Cook your favorite meal whenever you feel like, it will boost your self-esteem and increase positive attitude.

7) Indulge in your hobby, which could be anything such as – singing, dancing, reading etc.

8) If you’re interested in gardening then you could even do that, as it soothes your mind (and hey it’s eco-friendly).

9) Spend more time with your family.

10) And last but not the least – meditate, if possible. It will help you to cope up with anxiety issues and other related issues.

“Few things in the world are more powerful than a positive push, A smile, a world of optimism and hope. You can do it when things are tough.” ~ Richard M.DeVos

Article written by ~ Amisha Upadhyay

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How to overcome bullying

I use to ponder that bullying is something that just occurs in school, or just when you’re growing up. Turns out I wasn’t right. Bullying is common in adulthood too, but not very much discussed. I never realized it until I was forced to bear it. At first, I didn’t see it. There were some mocking remarks and some scornful perceptions about my personality. Some way or another I figured out how to overlook them, let them go, and not pay heed.

And all of a sudden, out of nowhere, when I began to settle on life decisions that they truly didn’t concur with, their behavior towards me got more negative with the addition of spreading of rumors, negative comments and body shamming. That is the point at which I began to understand that things were getting worse. I needed to prevent it from deteriorating, so I went to bat for myself. I requested that they quit judging and being pernicious.

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I disclosed to them we ought to commend our disparities, since they’re what make every last one of us so perfectly one of a kind. Above all, I essentially stated, if it’s not too much trouble approach me with generosity. This didn’t go down well as they criticized me to other people and attempted to spread more rumors by multiplying it with their extending gang.

This continued for a few years and to be honest I was a little annoyed in the beginning but gradually I became resilient to it, because I realized that people who bully others are emotionally disturbed human beings having low self esteem and lack of confidence leading them to emotionally or physically abuse others in order to feel the sense of superiority. And bullies may have a mindset that you are superior to them in any way, so to feed their egos they tend to bully you by hook or crook.

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So how to overcome this problem, here are some life hacks to overcome the bullies:

The art of ignorance: Best reply to a fool is silence. Whenever a bully or his/her friends are ganging up on you and sliding sarcastic comments, start ignoring those or simply walk out of the place.

Don’t let the bully snatch away your happiness: The most ideal approach to conquer tormenting is to continue carrying on with the life you want to live. Give them that whatever they state or do won’t prevent you from being happy. For example, there have been instances where I’ve been accomplishing something when their frightful remarks have crawled into my head. At the point I’ve said to myself, “I won’t let them remove my happiness from me.” Just saying that solidly and empathetically to yourself can help shut down that unhelpful brain prattle.

Keep you your clam but maintain boundaries: If you have nothing nice to say back to them, then don’t utter a word. I know it can be difficult to not fight back when they start the negative comments on you, but you have to be the bigger person and not fall to their level. But if there have been a lot of unbearable comments then speak up to them to clear their problem. If not possible then obviously ignore or tell your friends about the situation.

Realize that it’s okay to feel a little low sometimes: Bullying can be in the form of mental and physical abuse. It’s totally typical for you to feel terrible about it. No one gets a kick out of the chance to be derided or treated with disrespect, so it’s completely normal for you to feel hurt by it.

Remember that it’s about them: A person bullies others in order to satisfy his or her insecurities and to feel superior it makes them feel better. Perhaps they are threatened by your personality and want to make you feel insecure.

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Forgive the bully but don’t forget: Forgive the bully who has let you down, it you don’t the burden of emotions like pain, hurt or anger will be bad for your mental well being and would give more power to the bully. Try to forgive them because they are actually reflecting their insecurities and lack of confidence. But this doesn’t indicate that you should forget everything they did to you. Forgive them but never forget.

Self love is the key: If you are confident in yourself the bullies would never bother you. Or if you want you can start pampering yourself whether mentally or physically. You can bake, go for shopping, call your friends to hangout, watch a movie or simply spend some time with your family. This will instill some faith over you and give the strength to fight back.

Article written by – Amisha Upadhyay

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Its just a phase

Even after achieving a few milestones in our lives we tend to cling upon those negative thoughts which usually starts with – other’s are more successful than me, am I wrong to think another way, am I worthy, am I doing just fine, something’s wrong with me, etc and such kind of thoughts gather around like grey clouds over our sunny souls.

And then it begins – the vicious circle of negative thoughts which may haunt you forever. Indeed you heard it right – FOREVER!

Questioning yourself, analyzing your choices at one point of time is alright but it turns ugly when the negative trail of thoughts start eating up your peace of mind. According to me everyone have their own ways to overcome the thoughts of negativity and being clueless. There are few hacks by which you could beat these negative thoughts and self doubts:

Start challenging your negative doubts: Cases where you’re scrutinizing your capacity to perform a task, ask what is the source of this feeling? Try to find out what is setting off your feelings of dread and challenge them. Situations where you find yourself with a lack of skill or knowledge, start looking for better ways to support the task on which you are working and gain knowledge accordingly and it’s alright to not have all the answers in one go.

You’re not alone, everyone is going through this phase: When self-doubt starts hitting your mind with negative thoughts they don’t end fast, so it’s time to think positively. People who are confident, successful, experienced, intelligent or even well equipped go through the negative trail of self doubt affecting their efficiency. Starting anything new is having a lot of confusion but rather than focusing on its failure, realize that some of the best things come when you get out of your comfort zone and work upon yourself. Consistency is the key here!

Distracting ourselves from negativity: Sometimes the negative thoughts are so strong that it’s better to take a break from them. So you can go for a walk, take a long bath, listen to soothing music or involve in your hobby – the main goal here is to distract yourself from the negative thoughts but if such thoughts occurs repeatedly them don’t use this technique.

Be around positive people: If you doubt yourself, surround yourself with family and friends who remind you of your achievements and strengths. Take the first step to call those who can help you in this situation and you can even hangout with your buddies who uplift your soul.

Stop thinking about how others judge you: When you pay attention to what others say about you, chances of self-loathing gets higher. Worrying about what other people think of you will continue to hold you back and cause your efficiency to get disrupted.

But I firmly believe that it’s a phase, we should sink in the grey clouds of doubting ourselves let the pain be felt for a while and then come up with possible solutions. There you go – Rising up from the ashes of pessimism.

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Every tunnel has an end, after darkness comes light. Understand the phase of getting lost in the puzzle called life, let the pieces join by your efforts and destiny. You may have a dream to achieve but even if you don’t reach them right now, you will in the near future – otherwise an alternative best option is always on its way.

“You need to spend time crawling alone through shadows to truly appreciate what it is to stand in the sun.”– Shaun Hick

Article written by – Amisha Upadhyay

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Do we need somebody just to feel like we’re alright? – dealing with a toxic friendship

“Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out.”  – Robert Tew

I have learned a lot about friendship from my past experiences and even discovered that a few companions are great and few can likewise be extremely poisonous or toxic. Within the past few years, I began pondering about both the great and terrible friends that I’ve had in my life. As far as I can tell, I have ended up in a couple of situations where I realized that I had been investing my time and emotions over a toxic friend.

While writing this article a quote pops in my mind which was said by Dalai Lama he said that, “Let go of negative people. They only show up to share complaints, problems, disastrous stories, fear, and judgment on others. If somebody is looking for a bin to throw all their trash into, make sure it’s not in your mind.”

If Dalai Lama is cleaning harmfulness off his shoulders, can’t you? Removing pessimism from your life — regardless of whether you can’t remove the individual — doesn’t make you an awful human being, it implies you’re valuing your emotional, mental well-being and your self-worth. Expelling yourself from such circumstances can be very troublesome, particularly when we need to assume the best about individuals and to pardon their behavior.

I had been so blind in the concept of friendship that I gave many chances to those who didn’t even deserve it. I just consistently accept the best in a person and that they have the ability to change and improve, due to such kind of an attitude it’s been a torture on me to let a toxic person to be my friend – not only for a brief period of time but for years.

Tragically, a few people will never show the signs of changing themselves. I invested a great deal of energy persuading myself that I was simply being emotional or sad about some of the things that were going on within the friendships I had.

Now and then, when managing a toxic friend for quite a while, the best thing is simply to make a stride back and understand that it’s alright to head out in your own direction. It’s likewise essential to concentrate on the good friendships rather than the poisonous ones. It’s so natural to become involved with the negative energy and flounder in it, when the most ideal way is to simply eliminate yourself from the person and concentrate on such people who make you to feel positive and worthy.

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And it’s not even necessary to have a friend to make you feel worthy. Come on are you so boring that you can’t even spend time with yourself? – I guess not. I have find peace and contentment in solitude, if you tried a lot to make friends and still got the toxic ones doesn’t mean that you have a quest of finding a non-toxic person. Start living with yourself, embrace what you have, try to solve those questions which are related to your personal growth rather than wasting time and trying to fit in a toxic group.

A friendship that feels uneven will in the end get tedious, and any individual who causes you to feel blameworthy for doing what is best for you and taking a step back to take a breather is someone that might never change their behaviors. In any case, your toxic friend will consistently show their real nature, and after enough time you may start to understand the most ideal approach to escape all the friendship tragedies is to simply make a stride back; the best thing might be to not have that individual in your life any longer.

In the end I would like quote Rodolfo Peon “We all have those toxic people around us that make our lives miserable, The day we take them out from our lives, we will all become better people; including them.”

Written by – Amisha Upadhyay

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Let’s start loving ourselves!❤️

Mark Twain had said and I quote, “The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” He’s absolutely correct. If you really accept who you are with your flaws and vulnerabilities, then your life will be happier.

Self-acceptance is simply the capacity to acknowledge as you are rather than how you want to be, or how you wish others percieved you. It liberates you from an excessively high worry with what others think of you.

It’s the inclination of fulfillment notwithstanding your shortcomings and paying little heed to your past experiences and decisions. It’s essential for acceptable emotional well-being.

Or in lucid language acceptance isn’t something that can be constrained. The account of figuring out how to accept things about yourself consistently begins with not having the option to accept them and afterward figuring out how to do as such.

If you keep doubting yourself then the clouds of negative thoughts won’t be going away leading to some serious issues such as overthinking, insomnia, low self-esteem, etc. Numerous individuals fall into the snare of not tolerating what their identity is and afterward attempt to resemble another person. Which further stunts their personal growth.

For some individuals, self-acceptance is an every day battle. They reliably question themselves. What’s more, with more uncertainty comes considerably increasingly negative thoughts about themselves.
Further, increasingly negative contemplations can immediately turn down your world.

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The harsh truth is, we will never be liberated from the sentiments of loathing ourselves, or self-hatred. The uplifting news is, we don’t need to relate to these sentiments. You can acknowledge them and still focus on being simply the best version of yourself.

If you are having a tough time accepting yourself, concentrate upon your strengths.
It is important to remind ourselves that no one is perfect. Give more consideration to things you are acceptable at.

The way to self-acknowledgment will require some serious energy. Our outer conditions, past encounters, and how we’ve been raised can make it difficult to acknowledge ourselves. Be that as it may, it’s certainly feasible. With time, you can bit by bit develop to a condition of unlimited self-acceptance.

How to love yourself as the way you are?

You do so by investing in and dealing with your self-improvement and advancement. You deal with being the best you.

You comprehend that you are human, however you recognize that you have the potential and other worldly ability to transcend whatever conditions and impediments are placed in your way.

At the point when you love yourself you try to deal with yourself genuinely, intellectually and inwardly. You take care to look and feel your best by supporting your body, brain and soul.

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Alternately, on the off chance that you don’t cherish yourself enough, start taking care of your body, psyche, and soul. You won’t just become increasingly mindful, you will create sentiments of worth and achievement.

If you have any hobby then once in a while indulge yourself in it as it will help you to vent out all the negative emotions you are carrying. Enhance your skills and if you are poor at something then try to improve, you can also seek help from your friends and family. This would rejuvenate you, and help you to deal with the daily stresses and challenges of everyday life.

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Concluding in the words of Viktor Frankl “Loving oneself is the starting point of the growth of the person who feels the courage to take responsibility for their own existence.”

Article written by – Amisha Upadhyay

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